~WeLcoMe To My LIfE~

I’ve just finished reading..my errr… 5th storybook in 2 weeks. Okay, I know, I’m a bookworm.. heheh.. but I really can’t help it.. I won’t mind spending the day in bed curling up and disappear into yet another book. If only they can make textbook as exciting as storybooks. *sigh* Ok, that’s beside the point.

This book by Sophie Kinsella is really interesting and made me think. I mean..everyone has their own little secrets. There are lotsa reasons why you keep something from someone or lie to someone. Sometimes people lie to placate somebody.. sometimes, you think that you know the other person too well, and you know what you did can somehow jeopardise your relationship, hence you lied. Or ok, maybe you don’t really lie, but you don’t really tell the truth either. You kinda omit some pertinent facts and tell the bit that you think are acceptable. And you keep that unacceptable bits to yourself. Sounds familiar? I’m sure it does!

Now, don’t pretend that you don’t have these tiny little secrets. It’s just normal. Don’t be upset if your best friend don’t tell you everything. I mean, they can’t really tell you that they don’t like the present you gave them on their birthday, can they? Well maybe they can, but that’ll upset you..hence they keep their mouth shut. And if you really like something they don’t like, they won’t really say it straight on your face. They’ll kinda beat around the bush, hoping that you’ll understand. Besides, everyone needs their own little space. And we have to respect people’s privacy. At least, that’s what I think. (Although I have to admit there are some nosy people in the world. I mean who doesn’t like hearing juicy gossips every now and again?)

But then you say, relationship should be based on trust. Again, you’re right. You have to be able to trust someone enough you can tell them your secrets when the time comes. Like.. I don’t know.. like when you tell your bestfriend that her ex did made a move on you (while they’re still together) after they broke up - to emphasis that he’s not that good anyway. I mean, you can’t really go and mengorat your girlfriend’s best friend can you?

Bottom line is.. you have to balance these things. And think really carefully what you can keep to yourself, and when to spill the beans. Oh, and don’t tell your secrets to strangers. You can never tell if they’re going to be strangers for long. By right, don’t your mom told you not to talk to strangers?

thehealthinspectors: and to my beloved friends.. I do have secrets

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